I have to admit that I thought that I was going through menopause when I found out that I was pregnant with my darling Ruby. I was terrified at what people would think of me as an older woman with a baby, not to mention the higher risks to the pregnancy. I love being a mother, but was fully aware of what a huge change it would make to my life, no longer able to only think of yourself, always having to care for another needy human being, and it does not end when they become adults, you are always there mother.
My beautiful daughter Rachel found herself pregnant after coming out of an abusive relationship, there was no hope or reconciliation with her partner and she was afraid of having that connection with this man for the rest of her life. She carried around her secret, afraid to say the words out loud that she never thought that she would say. The baby was unwanted, she was not happy about the little life growing in her, I am sure that she would have been a wonderful mother, but that child would be an everyday reminder of the mistakes that she had made in her life.
My father ‘Ted’ has very strong views on abortion; he thinks that you must live the choices that you have made in your life. He and my mother tried many times for a baby and suffered several miscarriages, they desperately wanted a child.
This is not a discussion that you can have without emotion, it is something that most people feel passionate about, either they believe in free will and that women should choose what happens to their bodies and the rest of their lives. Others believe that you a making a decision to end a human life and see it as murder.
No matter what choices we make, I never think there is an easy choice... they are both choices that you live with for the rest of your life.
Julie
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