Well I have my cup of coffee and am sitting at the computer, this is a difficult topic to discuss and I will not pretend to know what I am talking about, I can only discuss my own experiences and how my family members and I have coped with their loss of a loved one
My son Ben lost his beautiful, energetic and kind young wife 'Melissa' in a tragic car accident. She was working late at the hospital, as she was a nurse, and driving home she took her eyes off the road for a moment to look at a text message on her mobile phone and went through a stop sign. Melissa was killed instantly by a truck coming the other way, with her death we lost all the hopes for the future that she and Ben were planning together. We were all sure that they would be starting a family soon and it breaks my heart whenever I think about how beautiful their children would have been.
We have all tried to be brave for Ben and try to encourage him to stay present in our lives and keep moving through his grief. He could not get off our couch for weeks and did not have the energy to eat at times. We nursed him through as best we could, but a year on and I still see a distance in his eyes and deep sadness that I can never heal.
We have all had great fear for Ben that he may try to end his own life; he cannot see the value of his own life without Melissa. I can only imagine how bleak things must look for him sometimes, I have offered him information on Beyond Blue and my Dad (Ben's Grandfather) Ted has discussed his own grief when he lost my mother, he even said he used to walk around the house in the quite hours of the night wearing my mother’s dressing gown because it smelt of her. Grief is a strange thing and it takes all kinds of shapes and forms, there is no right or wrong way to go through it, best thing you can do is talk about it with someone.
If you don't have anyone to listen, then I am here to lend an ear and share a cuppa.
Julie
My son Ben lost his beautiful, energetic and kind young wife 'Melissa' in a tragic car accident. She was working late at the hospital, as she was a nurse, and driving home she took her eyes off the road for a moment to look at a text message on her mobile phone and went through a stop sign. Melissa was killed instantly by a truck coming the other way, with her death we lost all the hopes for the future that she and Ben were planning together. We were all sure that they would be starting a family soon and it breaks my heart whenever I think about how beautiful their children would have been.
We have all tried to be brave for Ben and try to encourage him to stay present in our lives and keep moving through his grief. He could not get off our couch for weeks and did not have the energy to eat at times. We nursed him through as best we could, but a year on and I still see a distance in his eyes and deep sadness that I can never heal.
We have all had great fear for Ben that he may try to end his own life; he cannot see the value of his own life without Melissa. I can only imagine how bleak things must look for him sometimes, I have offered him information on Beyond Blue and my Dad (Ben's Grandfather) Ted has discussed his own grief when he lost my mother, he even said he used to walk around the house in the quite hours of the night wearing my mother’s dressing gown because it smelt of her. Grief is a strange thing and it takes all kinds of shapes and forms, there is no right or wrong way to go through it, best thing you can do is talk about it with someone.
If you don't have anyone to listen, then I am here to lend an ear and share a cuppa.
Julie
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